What I’m about to say will piss a lot of people off and quite possibly get me a few less followers- so be it.
I don’t condone violence but I can now understand why kids walk into a school and shoot people when there are 15 disciplinary actions in front of expulsion for harrassment and bullying. Wanna know how to solve it? Paddle that ass. There in said it.
My 12 year old is beautiful and I’m not just saying that because she’s mine. If she were ugly I’d admit it because one thing that kills me is when parents think they have the cutest kids and they enter them in pagents.. I call it the “Honey Booboo Disease.” But that’s not what this post is about.
My 12 year old has always been an honor roll student with good attendance. She’s always sparkled like a star with her peers/teachers and even been a peer tutor– but that’s before we moved to Lexington.
Lel started 7th grade at a new school in a new town and seemingly loved the change. She was proud to move into a school zone that would allow her to graduate (in 5 years) from the same high school as her 91 y.o great-grandmother, her 60 y.o grandfather and two of her older siblings. To be a Blue Devil is her dream.. and I’ll admit it makes me sappy to know she will follow in the footsteps of great family members.
Lel has a year and a half left in middle school with some of the worst kids I’ve ever had to deal with. Soon after school started she was picked on by peers her age simply because the boys liked her. I get it, girls are catty beasts; hell, I was. I also know that middle school boys are full of piss & vinegar and they like to talk shit about who they’ve dated or had sex with or whatever even when it’s mostly bs. I have two older kids who have made it all the way through and are now in college or own their own business. Not one time did I have to deal with bullshit like I’m dealing with now. This is where the harrassment comes in. At first there was a little boy who wanted to go out with Lel but she turned him down. This little creeper somehow got into Lel’s phone and got my phone number and my older daughters phone number and was calling/texting being ignorant so.. I had to call the school. That ended that.
Next came a website that some kid(s) developed that was based on the latest middle school gossip. Of course all the pretty girls were on there and being talked about like they were dirty whores.. Again, the school was contacted except this time in writing and threats of a lawsuit were made. The IP address was eventually found as were the kid(s) who opened it and it was soon shut down. Game over.
Next was an anonymous text sent from an unknown cell stating that the person on the other end was, “going to get her,” Once more Lel took it to her guidance counselor and it was found out it was Lel’s best friend who claimed to be kidding. Guess the joke was on her- this momma hates clowns.
And today it was brought to my attention that some little douche and his bags have been taunting Lel by calling her a slut. Last straw.
I called the principal and told her that ever since Danielle started at her middle school my kid has gone from honor roll to D’s and F’s. She has been picked at and talked about like shes a whore when she has YET to have ber first kiss. She’s been put on a mild antidepressant for anxiety AND dreads going to school… then I told her that these are the reasons why kids walk into school and kill people or hang themselves from trees and I was DONE with it. I told her she needed to fix ALL of the shit, like YESTERDAY or I would.
I will do whatever I have to do to protect my cubs… I’ll blast the school on the news, picket in front of her front doors, as well as get an attorney. The principal told me she’d take care of it asap. I informed her that when Lel went to a guidance counselor she was instructed on how middle school boys act and that she needs to learn to deal with it. The hell??? Last time I heard my taxes weren’t paying her ass to blow my kid off… would be in her best interest to solve the damn problem.
I have a good kid. I really do- I’m not just saying that. Wanna know how I know? Because I’m a nosy momma and I randomly go through her Facebook and instagram. If I see anything that’s inappropriate she has to remove it. We talk about why its inappropriate. I also see who she texts and what she says. I have her passwords, not her. I make decisions for her because she’s 12. I don’t allow her to dress “slutty” and I screen her friends. She has a time her phone is to be shut off and she has a bedtime at night.
I’m not overprotective and most of the time I allow her to fight her own battles. I do understand that when a kid starts at a new school it takes awhile to grow some new roots. Danielle had been in the same school system with the same kids since kindergarten – just the same as the kids in her new school have been. I get it, there are clicks already formed and the “new kid” has to earn their way in. That’s fine. I’ve been there myself. I also know that Lel isn’t innocent and you better believe that she is called down for ill behavior towards others. I’m not some naive mother who thinks her kid does no wrong. I don’t like to get into the drama of middle school but I will when it becomes more than typical middle school drama. When it becomes bullying or harrassment I have zero tolerance.
If you want kids to stop killing other kids and their teachers and/or killing themselves then stop blowing shit off and do something about the bullies when it’s brought to your attention THE FIRST TIME!!!!!!!